God and Me

Posted February 21st, 2012 in News, Personal by Dennis

Child of GodRan into a gentleman this morning (~5 years my senior) while exiting Starbucks… asked me if the UofI Hospitals had a Catholic chapel. Discovered his family were bringing their mother to UofI following a serious accident ~a year ago… for further intense treatment. Oddly enough, my former “lay-pastor” proclivities kicked-in, lending me to inform him of the UofI’s chapels and asking him about God and his belief’s. Spent ~5 minutes in the cold discussing religion and his concern for his mother. Between the two of us, we came to understand that all of us struggle. For that struggle, I leave him this quote, which I pray he finds:

Are you in difficult circumstances, surrounded by people who do not understand, who never consult your taste, who put you in the background? “This thing is from Me. I am the God of circumstances. Thou camest not to thy place by accident;  it is the very place God meant for thee.” I have placed you in the very school where this lesson is taught;  your surrounding and companions are only working out my will.

How in the world did I get placed in that situation at that very convenient time? Honestly, God and I have a very tentative relationship. I understand that God exists, but I don’t’ understand why he’s been wreaking so much havoc on my life over the last 10 years… and why so many people have to struggle. It’s weird and probably stupid. I just don’t understand why people with great intentions have to work so hard to make those intentions come to fruition. Are we (I)  too proud? Are we too full of ourselves? Are we trying too hard? Are we simply ignoring our own personal issues to make it impossible to do “real” good? I don’t know.

Be that as it may… before I go to bed tonight, I shall pray for him and his family for strength. God did not place me there for nothing. I was meant to do something… and I hope I did (and will do)  what was intended. I hope I did OK. I pray that I didn’t shank the opportunity. Helping others only helps to help myself. I hope I didn’t disappoint.

Every Woman Deserves a Man Who…

Posted January 22nd, 2012 in Featured, News, Personal by Dennis

broken-heart

So, my step-mother (technically… it’s a long story) posted this to her Facebook Status…

Every woman deserves a man who calls her baby, kisses her like he means it. Holds her tight like he never wants to let go, doesn’t make her jealous of other women, instead makes other women jealous of her, is not scared to let his friends and family know how he really feels about her and won’t let any of them treat her bad, lets her know how much he really loves her…

…and it really got me thinking. It really struck a chord. Normally, I ignore über right-wing FB Status Updates, requests to join their Mafia, or play Be-Jeweled… especially when they end with “if you agree, then please re-post.” I’m just not that much of a follower… I guess. Well, she got me this time. :)

What struck me the most was “…doesn’t make her jealous of other women, instead makes other women jealous of her…” Wow. That’s exactly where I’ve failed… especially with my ex-girlfriend. And it’s not a difficult thing to do. I mean, how hard is it to be attentive to your soul-mate’s needs? So, why in God’s name did I make such a painfully obvious mistake? I’m still trying to figure it out.

Conversely, Ken at “Everything Must Go” offered his male perspective thus:

Every man deserves a woman who respects him to his face and behind his back, doesn’t cheat, doesn’t sexually reject him but is an enthusiastic lover, keeps herself together, doesn’t make him jealous of other men, instead makes other men jealous of him, sends him off to have time with the guys with a smile instead of eye-daggers, lets him do things for her, doesn’t treat him like one of her girlfriends, tells him what she needs instead of expecting him to read her mind or decipher hints, is not scared to let her friends know how she really feels about him, and lets him know how much she appreciates and respects him…

From my perspective, these feel as close to a perfect analysis as I’ve read in quite a while.

Women are not accustomed to men who are straight-forward or blunt… whereas, men do not like having to second-guess their mate’s intentions. Wow! It’s a miracle that ANY of us can get along. Both sexes are behind the eight-ball every step of the moment.

My advice to everyone who reads this: Stop the nonsense! Get with the program! You are in love! Shout it out from the mountain tops! You are going to have differences. It’s SO very common. Trust them as much as they trust you. Tell them what you are feeling. Don’t be ashamed. You have their back, right? Take the criticism. They wouldn’t be offering if they didn’t give a damn. Do what needs to be done. Get help… some really good help. The two of you can’t do this alone, can you? Take those dancing lessons, get into couples-therapy, sing, dance, eat, be vulnerable, help them, do what it takes. You love them, right? Of course you do. That’s why the two of you will survive… because, the two of you are in love with each other… and that is a beautiful thing. :) Make those other couples jealous. Do it. I dare you.

I’ve “shanked” the best relationship I have ever had because of my stubbornness. Please… don’t let this happen to you.

WordPress Zen: Tightening the Wrench on the Equilibrium Theme

Posted September 15th, 2011 in Programming, WordPress by Dennis

Equlibrium: WordPress ThemeI’ll admit, I really have a man-crush on themes like Made by On‘s Equilibrium WordPress Theme. They are so open and fresh and so easily readable. With ton’s of white-space, this theme really let’s a LOT of fresh air into the page.

And then… I start to hate it. :(

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Fixing Facebook Status Updates & RSS

Posted July 31st, 2011 in Programming, WordPress by Dennis

Facebook has crushed its competition: MySpace & Friendster. Still, Facebook continues to make a mess of its “friendliness” towards its users.

I will not attempt to answer that question, but will do my best to alleviate one of Facebook’s major flaws: Status RSS Feeds.

Twice in the last three months, Facebook (and its programmers) has completely messed with the ability of its users to make use of their Facebook Status Updates on the own personal websites & blogs. I mean, if they want us to use your service… then allow me to use your service! If you are like me, what you’ve been seeing is this in your widget: Facebook Syndication Error.

Gah! Again? What seems to be happening, is Facebook has chosen to periodically change your Authentication Key. It’s the piece that indicates that “Yes”… you ARE who you SAY you are. Continue Reading »

Well, that was stupid…

Posted July 28th, 2011 in SiteNews, WordPress by Dennis

So, I finally took matters into my own hands and took the necessary steps to un-install, re-install, update install various versions of WordPress so that it would quit “complaining” that my previous install didn’t go “according to plan.” It all began with me growing tired of my hosting service’s inability to keep up the technology. WordPress bugs had been found that could be devastating if I didn’t upgrade, but my host simply hadn’t made that upgrade available and I became worried. So, I used the “automatic upgrade” feature… made me happy at the time… but made further upgrades through my host much more difficult.

Perhaps I should have waited.

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Shakespeare: Henry V

Posted April 30th, 2011 in News, Personal by Dennis
Henry the 5th

Henry the 5th

I am currently learning my lines as the “Duke of Exeter” for Iowa City’s Dreamwell Theater production of Shakespeare’s “The Life of King Henry the Fifth.”

I have my “Kittredge: Players Illustrated Edition” by my side, but still… no matter how I attempt to deliver them… my lines come-off as a combination of Brian Blessed (from Kenneth Branagh’s film version) and Sam Elliot. My voice is TOO DEEP! Gaaagh!

Like many from the 80′s refrain: I wanna’ be a cowboy!

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A Review of the Verizon iPhone 4

Posted April 7th, 2011 in News, Personal, Technology by Dennis
iPhone4

iPhone4

Yeah, I drank the Kool-Aid. :)

So, I buy the phone…

In my defense, for all you Android fans, I’ve been among the Motorola camp for many years:  switching my Nokia “brick” for the Moto RAZR and then the RAZR2 & its fabulous camera (a cellphone which VZW dropped mere months after I switched… still not sure what THAT was about.)

Alas, I’ve been limping along on the RAZR2′s ORIGINAL battery for 3 years before Apples’s iPhone4 was finally relinquished to Verizon’s expansive network of CDMA towers. Yes, it won’t do data AND voice at the same time… but, neither did the original iPhone… until the iPhone 3G was released. So… Bite Me!

I’ve been impressed so far. Of course, there’s been a bit of a learning curve, but much of that has been setting the phone up to work for me: setting Alarms, Ringtones (which there aren’t many built-in), and organizing my Contacts list. The actual “swap” at the Verizon Store from my Moto RAZR2 to the iPhone 4 was fairly straight-forward. It took some time to finally Activate it, but I suspect it had much to do with the number of Verizon customers doing the very same thing as I that Saturday afternoon.

I had waited a couple weeks before making the switch; I really don’t consider myself an “early adopter”. I watched the multiple Gawker sites and kept a close eye on Engadget to read the general reaction. I read about the similar “Grip of Death” that plagued the AT&T version, but knew that if I picked up a decent case… I wouldn’t be having those issues. Spent some cash on a package of Pure-Gear “Display Protectors” and was impressed with the amount of thought that went into assisting the user on how to best apply the “cover friendly” scratch-guard. The fact that they included a screen wipe (the same I find when purchasing high-end SLR camera lens’s) was most impressive.  Now, I know why they cost $15 for 3 protectors.

As soon as I got it home, I immediately sync’d it to my Windows XP desktop. Even though iTunes can be a little buggy & bloated, it sync’d with no problems and quickly began scarfing my tunes. With that finished, I quickly began downloading applications from the iTunes Store: Find my Phone, PS Express, Labelbox, IMDb, Facebook, Twitter, Remote, Skype, NPR News, CNN, RedLaser, Mint, eBay, Craigslist, SoundHound and as many Free Angry Birds games as possible.

The REAL standouts are:

  • Find my Phone – Reports back your phone’s GPS coordinates & will locate your lost/stolen phone
  • Remote – Remotely control iTunes from your WiFi Access Point
  • RedLaser – Scans barcodes using the camera, identifies the item, how much it costs and where it can be found.
  • SoundHound – Hum a few bars or record audio from the radio and it will tell you the name of that song that’s been nagging you all day.

These are really “niche” applications, but they really show the capabilities of the iPhone 4 and how easy it can be to integrate all the gizmo’s inside.

6 Months Later…

Now, I’ve had this phone for 6 months and it’s still running like a champ. I did manage to crack the backside glass shell, though. I’m not sure why Apple decided to surround the iPhone4 in Gorilla Glass, but it was a pretty bad move. My old Nokia or Motorola RAZR would have shrugged-off that waist-high plummet to the concrete with aplomb. The iPhone? Not so much. I’m keeping most of the shards intact by pasting a section of Clear Packing Tape to the back shell.

Obviously, my next case will something a bit more durable than a silicone rubber sock. Although, I enjoyed the anti-slip feature when I placed the iPhone on the dash of my Mercedes. Fortunately for me, replacing the back glass is rather cheap: $20 – $40 bucks on eBay, including tools.

I can count on one hand, the number of times a single charge did NOT last me the entire day. In addition, I’m suprised I didn’t break the glass sooner, as I typically carry the iPhone4 in my back pocket. After all those hours sitting at my desk or driving between Iowa City and Cedar Rapids… I’m amazed I hadn’t bent the thing in half.

I’m also impressed with the fact that I’ve yet to replace the initial screen-protector. Yeah, it’s developed a few tiny bubbles… but, they’ve never impeded the scrolling features. :) Win!

My ONLY complaint: The front-facing camera sucks. Oh, GAWD, does it suck. I’ve retired my personal digital camera for the iPhone4′s back camera, with built-in HDR recording capabilities. But, that front-facing camera? GAG!

Conclusion

All-in-all… this is one solid phone with more features than I suspect I’ll ever really use. The cell-phone has finally matured.